Thursday, December 13, 2012

The Upside

It occurs to me that I complain a lot about gender- and transition-related stuff. This is because it, frankly, sucks. Getting misgendered sucks. Having to correct people on pronouns sucks. Trying so damn hard to look masculine and then being called "ma'am" at the grocery store sucks. Dysphoria sucks. Processing the changes in your relationship with your parents sucks. Being legally identified as the wrong name and gender sucks (and the process to change that double-sucks).

It sucks, it sucks, it sucks.

But hearing someone call me "he," "sir," "young man"? Makes me feel like a lottery winner, like a fairytale prince whose dreams have all come true, like the king of the fuckin' world.

Pictured: me.

1 comment:

  1. I know exactly how you feel. As a trans* girl, I feel really worn down and sad when I hear people insist on using male pronouns. I also struggle with this internalized trans*-misogyny that always makes it hard to assert my identity because I have these transphobic messages telling me things like "You're just a man in denial" and "You no self-respect for wanting to transition." I try to ignore these messages, but it's not easy.

    Oh, and dysphoria? Definitely sucks.